My friends and I went to Lip-sync, a competition among the Greek life on campus and a student government and housing. As we’re waiting in line, we see AB and his gf. And we also see Peter. My roommate timed it perfectly, so that I stood looking around for a seat, and when Peter showed up, I happened to turn around and see him.
We were sitting in the balcony area since the bottom sections were filled. So we sat together and he was only there to film one group performing since his roommate is in it. What a thoughtful roommate he is. He’s looking around for seat closer to the front, and he sees one and says he’s ditching me so he can get a better view to film. I’m upset, but I get it. He goes to move and finds out the seat is reserved.
Peter: I brought my book, but now you’re here. I’m not sure what he meant by that, if he meant anything. I think he said it in a funny sort of way. Least, I hope.
Me: Still reading Gone With the Wind?
Peter: Yeah
Me: How far are you?
Peter: Like 10%. It’s kinda boring.
So he’s looking around, and asks if the row at the very top in the back would provide a better view, plus he could stand up and film. I ask him if I could join him and he says yeah. So we move to the back, and it turns out it’s a great view. He says he’s going to bolt after his roommate’s group performs. And later I say, since they’re only 6 groups and his roommate’s is going fourth, he might as well stay. And he thinks about it.
We watch the groups perform and make comments here and there. He doesn’t have a FB. He rode his bike over to campus. He got away with having his bag with him (though no bags, purses, umbrellas, or weapons were allowed).
He ended up staying. And I like to think it’s because I suggested it. He was going to the bars after the show. We talked a little here and there. He remembered where I lived when I told him my mom was cool with the team coming over. He said, “Even when she’s not there?” and I said, “I’m sure she can go out with her boyfriend.”
He has this weird thing with eye contact. He’ll talk to you, but he won’t actually maintain that long of eye contact. I don’t know if this is a bad sign or what. I’m also pretty sure he smokes pot because he kind of smells like weed, though I’m not exactly sure what that smells like.
After the last performance, he sort of jumped up and said, “I gotta get out of here. I’m f*cking hot.” I mean, he was wearing a leather jacket that he didn’t take off the whole time. And it was crowded, every sit was filled. Plus it was loud. I have a feeling he didn’t want to stay anymore than he wanted to, but since I insisted, he didn’t want to be rude. Sort of wish I could tell if he likes talking to me, or if he finds me annoying.
I mean, I’m just glad I got to see him and watch the show with him.
Any thoughts? At the very least, what body language I should keep and out for, or signs that he’s tolerating my company instead of enjoying it?
if someone crosses their arms in your company, it can sometimes indicate insecurity. I wouldn’t take the eye contact thing too seriously, just watch and see if he does it with others as well.
Thanks for the heads up! And he pretty much kept his hands in his pockets and then set them on his knees. I think he doesn’t like big crowds, from what I’ve noticed.
Okay so, this may sound a little harsh (and I apologize for that) but it doesn’t seem like he’s all that into you. I mean, I can only go by what you’ve said so obviously I don’t know for sure. I think sometimes we try and find little things here and there that the other person has done to make it seem like they’re into us. Ya know?
In the last post you said something about him giving you a ride, right? It just seems like he’s just a nice guy.
If anything, back off and see what happens. If a guy is interesting in you, you’ll know he’s interested. You won’t have to worry about body language or signs.
Sorry if this comes across as mean or anything…I just thought I’d give you my honest opinion. I don’t want to give you false hope and be disappointed in the end. But all in all, I still wish you the best
No no no, you’re fine!! Believe me, I know I read into small things. I just. I don’t know. I’m pretty sure I’m not the type of girl he’d be interested in. I think you’re right. I’ll go with the flow. Talk to him when we have class, and just see where things go. If anything, I think he’d be a good friend to have.
Thank you for your advice!!
you’re welcome. Good luck!
I don’t like the poor eye contact. I do not trust someone that can’t look me in the eyes. It is a sign of dishonesty/secrecy/hiding. Be careful-you’re waaaaaay too awesome to settle!
Aww thanks! And yes, I thought it was suspicious…